I've been thinking for the past few days and decided to share a few thoughts.
People have been telling me this my whole life and my husband tells me it every day but it just hasn't seemed to click until lately (sorry that it has taken me so long).Maybe it was because of the Relief Society Lesson I had to teach last sunday or because I watched Mean Girls the other day and they talked about it on there but here it is-
Don't worry about what other people think about you and don't judge others...
The lesson I taught last sunday was from the talk by Neil L Andersen titled, What Thinks Christ of Me? The scripture that stood out to me most was Romans 14:10; "But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgement seat of Christ."
I've really been thinking about that the past few days. I am guilty of judging people and people judge me all the time but in the end, who does it benefit? Does calling someone dumb make me smarter? Does calling someone's outfit ugly make me any more pretty? No, it doesn't. I'm only hurting myself by saying such hurtful things. In the end, Christ's judgement is the only one that matters so live as he would have us live.
Secondly, why worry about what other people are thinking? Sure, people will ALWAYS judge us. They will tell us what we should be doing, what we shouldn't be doing, how wrong we are, etc. The truth is-who cares? When I constantly worry about what other people are thinking about me, I am not truly happy.
I know from experience that people have hurt me in the past, and are hurting me now. They may be doing things that we don't think are right but who are we to say rude things to them or about them? We know how it feels to be hurt by someone else's words so why do we make other people feel that same hurt?
As we go around judging people, we realize people are judging us in return and then we start worrying about what everyone is thinking and therefore become unhappy people so then we judge them again for judging us. What a silly cycle we are creating!
If we all spent less time judging other people and saying mean things, we ourselves would become happier.
I've decided here and now to stop judging others, to stop worrying about what other people are thinking about me and to start focusing on my life with my husband. I will do whatever we feel like doing and know will make us the most happy.
Lets be honest here, no matter what we do...someone, somewhere will be unhappy. It is IMPOSSIBLE to please everyone so why not please ourselves first?
One last thought-
As I said before, people have hurt us in the past and may continue to hurt us everyday, over and over again. Does this mean we shouldn't forgive them anymore? I make mistakes every single day and I know that everyone around me does the same. Nobody is perfect. Christ gets hurt by millions of people every day, over and over again. But every time a person gets on their knees and asks for his forgiveness, he forgives. We cannot expect to be forgiven by him if we do not forgive others ourselves. Lets not be hypocrites here. Be the bigger person and forgive. Being angry at someone and holding grudges holds us back from being happy.
During this holiday season, lets be a little bit nicer to those around us. Open a door for someone, even if it means you'll be a little late, stop and help someone with their grocery's, take a neighbor a treat. The little things we can all do will make a huge difference.
Happy Holiday's everyone!
27 days till Christmas :)
Sorry for the novel ;)
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